When I talk to people and mention acceptance to them, sometimes the skepticism is so palpable, I can almost touch it. The apprehension is ‘What if my acceptance of my thoughts leads to its...
When you are struggling, it is difficult to find things to be grateful for. ‘What part of my life you think is worth being thankful for?’ you may ask. Your pain may blindside you to the things that...
Psychological insight simply put means awareness of the rationality or irrationality of one’s thoughts. Insight is important in the maintenance of and recovery from several mental disorders. Lack of...
The seventh pillar of recovery is compassion. Compassion has been defined as a feeling “that arises in witnessing another’s suffering and that motivates a subsequent desire to help” (Goetz et al.,...
In this chapter, I shall briefly touch upon the next four pillars of recovery. After CBT, ERP, mindfulness, acceptance, gratitude, insight and compassion, the eighth pillar is a good diet. There is...
The twelfth pillar of recovery is medicines. One section of people is averse to taking medicines because of the various side-effects. Plus, medicines do not cure OCD, they only treat OCD. So, there...
Sometimes it helps to give your ROCD a name (Prudovski, n.d.). That is, think of your ROCD as a separate person. You probably already think of your ROCD as another person because it seems to wield...
In this chapter, I am going to explain the critical distinction between the two states of being triggered and not being triggered. Sometimes people say distraction is important, and at other times...
When ROCD first hits, we do the compulsions because they seem like the right thing to do to help us out of our misery. But even when we get to know that the compulsions don’t help us but hold us...
When you first start obsessing about your relationship, you don’t immediately recognize your ROCD like you would recognize a headache. By the time you do and discover you have ROCD, a lot of time is...
Sometimes the ROCD may impair the major part of the day and you may begin to say ‘I am always triggered’. But that is not entirely true. There are moments of clarity which help you understand the...
When we get into the rationalization of all compulsions, you will observe that the methodology for dealing with all of them is almost the same. Why, you would ask. If you observe how your ROCD works...
There seems to be a common misconception among people that they would be expected to stop everything all at once. Some people come for therapy with a feeling of hopelessness and claim that they have...
You would have experienced the following three states from time to time: Anxiety without intrusive thoughts about your relationship Intrusive thoughts without any accompanying anxiety. Anxiety with...
Most times, an ROCD attack is not a simple attack. ROCD attacks in various layers, at various levels. When you first learn to use the principles of ERP to deal with your ROCD, you expect that if you...
Before your ROCD is diagnosed, you may have already begun to do some compulsions even if not too many or too severe - such as avoidance or distraction. But in the beginning, what seemed like a...
When you have an obsession about whether your partner is right for you or not, or whether your partner loves you enough or not, you inadvertently find yourself engaging in a debate. The question...
Think back to when you have had a baseless, futile argument with someone. Who wins a baseless argument? The person who doesn’t listen to the other side. The person who does listen to the other gets...
In this chapter, we shall understand the concept of agreeing without accepting. We start off by reiterating that Kay is a liar. Kay is not interested in making you feel better. Kay is only...
We often say I got triggered by this or I got triggered by that. But what actually are triggers? Triggers in ROCD are those events that bring about obsessions, which in turn lead to compulsions and...